To all mothers out there I am sure you don’t need anyone to tell you that ‘me time’ is just as important to your wellbeing as it is for the wellbeing of your family!
We know that ‘mothers need time out’ too!
Because, when we don’t take care of ourselves then we don’t actually take good care of our families.
However, somehow, and for some reason when we read that new ‘research’ or ‘an expert’ suggests that timeouts are critical to mothers’ sanity then suddenly we feel that a stamp of approval has been given and we should feel no guilt to take ‘a break.’
Experts suggest that timeout also enables fathers to show off their parenting skills, and allows children to function with the duality of trusting in both parents.
Often, say experts, in stay at home parent households, children become so reliant upon one parent, they don’t think they can function without their father or mother.
And it strikes a vicious circle of dependency and co-dependency, in which the dependency becomes so bad that mom is afraid to leave and dad feels uneasy about being alone with his children.
So getting out as often as possible, is really a good thing.
Dr Nava Silton, a psychology professor says children need to see this balance as it is important for the family.
When moms are out, the family has enough time and freedom to bond with each other.
“Moms are irreplaceable, but children learn how to handle situations when they are gone. They get used to the food grandmothers make or the way their dads cook,” she says.
“Moms need a break, and it doesn’t have to be a full-blown vacations. Even a free morning will do.”
I confess I am a workaholic. I also love my family, friends and my dog!
Yes at times I struggle to find the balance between all of this and am not going to deny it or apologise for it.
But I don’t need an expert to tell me that I need a ‘mom-vacation’ just so that it makes it ok to go on a short break with my girlfriends without feeling guilty, or spend a day at the spa, because I should!
I am actually writing this as I stare out of my hotel room at a beach resort, while on a short ‘break’ with my family!
Reem Antoon is a former GDN news editor. She can be reached on: email@example.com