I have previously written about certain etiquette and good practices that should be followed during funeral ceremonies and condolence meetings, but, it seems, I have been blowing the proverbial trumpet towards the wall.
We all go to such meetings, whether these are at people’s homes, public halls or community centres. There are several scores of people at such gatherings to mourn with the family members but I have often seen there are those visitors who use the occasion to catch up on gossip, talk about the weather and even conclude commercial deals, many a time to the accompaniment of boisterous backslapping and loud laughter. Imagine the feeling of the near and dear ones of the person who has passed on since all this takes place within their sight and earshot.
Is this appropriate? How can, if I am from the family of the deceased, God forbid, accept this? There are several incorrect practices that we follow in our societies, but the question arises is why do we continue with them? Why not change this ourselves because it will be change for the better and we shall rid ourselves of such a malice. There is no doubt that people in Bahrain are keen to carry out this moral and religious duty and it is good habit we hope will be passed on to future generations.
I have a suggestion that will, perhaps, change this behaviour. Organisers of gatherings should ensure religious sermons from renowned scholars or recitations from the Holy Quran are played loud and clear so that everyone present can hear them at all times. This will ensure people stay focused since I know they will not say or do anything else when they hear the Holy Quran.
It assures me that this will put an end to irresponsible or undesirable behaviour.
Man by nature resists change in behaviour even if it is wrong, saying it is a custom or a tradition. The real issue is that we do not have the courage to change.
But, as is said, a “journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step”.