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Some people are like birds who are born with wings, who understand the vastness of the sky, yet never dare to fly. Not because they cannot but because, over time, they have been taught to stay grounded for the sake of others.
These are the people who give endlessly. They sacrifice quietly, offering every inch of themselves to support, comfort, and uplift those around them. Yet, more often than not, their efforts go unnoticed. Their presence is expected, their kindness assumed, and their silence misunderstood. Instead of acknowledgment, they are met with indifference. Instead of gratitude, they are taken for granted.
In a world that often rewards loudness over sincerity, kindness is too easily mistaken for weakness. Those who choose patience are seen as passive. Those who avoid conflict are labelled as incapable. But this perception is deeply flawed.
I write this not as an observer, but as someone who belongs to this very group. As a woman, I do not feel ashamed to admit that I have chosen silence many times not out of fear, but out of awareness. I have chosen peace over unnecessary battles.
I have endured misunderstandings, not because I lacked the strength to respond, but because I recognized the futility of certain conflicts. There is a difference between being unable to speak and consciously deciding not to.
Let us be clear: silence is not weakness. Kindness is not helplessness. Patience is not submission.
In fact, those who are “easy to deal with” are often the ones who carry the heaviest emotional burdens. They understand struggle, which is why they choose gentleness. They have faced harshness, which is why they offer softness. Their strength lies not in reacting, but in restraining. However, this strength must not become a doorway for exploitation. Kindness should never mean losing oneself. It should never require enduring disrespect or being diminished.
There is dignity in giving, but there must also be dignity in self-preservation. Being compassionate does not mean accepting mistreatment. Choosing peace does not mean surrendering self-worth. But unfortunately it is thought that if someone is kind he was probably left with no other option.
If you find someone genuinely kind to you , respect that instead of giving them reason to question their kindness. The world needs more kindness but not the type that erases the individual.
The world gives us thousands of reasons to become cruel but the real strength is to choose being kind over and again.
Shafqat Aijaz
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